Leading Lady
Listen up, ladies. It’s time to stop being the side character in your own life. You’re not just the quirky friend, the emotional support human, or heaven forbid, an NPC. You’re the main event, the leading lady, the It Girl of your own cinematic masterpiece. Welcome to Main Character Energy 101, where we raise our standards, boost our confidence, and take control of our lives like the powerhouse queens we are.
But let’s get one thing straight, Main Character Energy isn’t about fitting into a predetermined mould of beauty or perfection. It’s not about looking like the latest Instagram trend or checking off a list of what society deems “desirable.” It’s about seeing your life as an epic movie where every moment: good, bad, and ‘why-is-this-happening-to-me’, is part of the plot. Spilled your latte? That’s the dramatic scene where you realise you were meant to try a different drink. Got ghosted? Perfect. Cue the montage where you glow up, thrive, and become mysteriously unavailable. The audience (you) is rooting for you.
You are not, and I repeat not, available for low-quality experiences. Repeat after me: "I am not for everyone, and that is a good thing." High standards are not about being difficult; they’re about curating your life in a way that prioritises your happiness, your goals, and your overall well-being. No more entertaining mediocre dates, jobs that drain your soul, or friendships that make you question your worth. If they can’t meet your standards, they don’t get access. Simple. Think of yourself as a VIP lounge, exclusive, sophisticated, and absolutely not accepting nonsense. It’s not about being mean, it’s about knowing your value and acting accordingly.
And let’s talk about that energy, your energy is currency, and you need to spend it wisely. You wouldn’t drop your last £50 on something useless, so why are you spending your emotional energy on people and situations that don’t serve you? Protecting your peace is a full-time job, and boundaries are your salary. Not everyone deserves access to you, and that’s okay. You are not required to be available to every request, every person who wants your time, or every situation that drains you. Prioritise yourself like it’s your job—because it is.
Confidence is not something that just magically appears one day when you wake up. It’s a decision. It’s built by doing the things that scare you, even when you don’t feel ready. Speak up in meetings. Take yourself on a solo date. Post that selfie without overanalysing it. Try new things. Wear the outfit you’ve been too afraid to rock. Walk into every room like you belong there, because you do. The more you act like you’re that girl, the more you become her. And guess what? You are that girl.
But here’s the thing, being “that girl” isn’t about perfection. It’s about authenticity. I used to think beauty was something you could measure, a checklist of flawless skin, the perfect curve of a jawline, or the effortless way someone fits into society's mould. I believed, like many of us do, that if I could just adjust this, fix that, maybe then I'd be "enough." But the world was never meant to be a competition of appearances. It was always meant to be a gallery of individuality, where every person adds their own colour, texture, and story.
Imagine walking into an art gallery where every painting is the same. Identical brush strokes, the same palette of colours, the same scenery replicated over and over again. Wouldn't it feel... empty? The beauty of art lies in its diversity, the bold, chaotic splashes of colour that challenge the eye, the soft pastels that whisper instead of shout, the abstract pieces that make no sense until you feel them rather than analyse them. Imagine if Van Gogh had thought, "You know what? Maybe I should stick to painting realistic portraits." We'd never have Starry Night; we'd just have Yet Another Portrait of a Man in a Hat.
Why, then, do we treat ourselves as if we must be carbon copies of an impossible ideal? As if our worth is tied to how closely we resemble a fleeting trend or a filtered image? Your freckles are not flaws; they're constellations scattered across the canvas of your skin. The gap in your teeth isn't something to hide; it's a unique signature, like an artist's mark on their masterpiece. The curve of your hips, the scars on your knees, the lines that crinkle around your eyes when you laugh, these are not imperfections. They are the brushstrokes of your story, the texture that gives your life depth. They are your personal version of a signature colour palette, crafted by experiences, emotions, and the sheer act of living.
The most captivating people aren’t perfect. They light up a room not because they look like they’ve stepped out of a magazine, but because they carry themselves with a kind of unapologetic authenticity. They laugh too loudly, tell stories with wild hand gestures, and have that little crinkle in their nose when they’re genuinely amused. They spill coffee on their shirt five minutes before an important meeting, shrug it off, and carry on because, honestly, who has time to care when there’s life to live?
So, the next time you find yourself standing in front of a mirror, picking apart the reflection staring back at you, remember this: the world doesn’t need another perfect face. It needs you. Your story, your colours, your texture. You are not here to fit into someone else’s frame. You are here to be your own masterpiece. And trust me, the gallery of life would be incomplete without you.
Main Character Energy isn’t about perfection; it’s about owning your story and refusing to settle for anything less than what you deserve. The world isn’t going to hand you the life of your dreams on a silver platter, you have to take it. And you will. Because you’re that girl. You always have been.
Now go forth, raise your standards, and make your life the masterpiece it was always meant to be. Lights, camera, action.
