The Older Man, the desired figure in every twenty something girls life. Whether you’re searching for your thirty something boyfriend, or your 50 something husband, every 20-something woman has found herself sat in the passenger seat of said older mans car. And if you haven’t, buckle up babe, it’s a wild ride.

In today’s dating climate,I find myself walking away from relationships with men who seem so perfect on paper. They’re kind, smart, emotionally available, funny… pretty much everything I could want in a partner. So why do I feel like I’m making a huge mistake every time I decide to cut things off?

The Divide: Coupledom vs. Singlehood. In your 20s, life often feels like a tug-of-war between two very distinct factions: couples and singles. While they may both seem to share a common stage… living in the same world, experiencing the same social circles, there is an invisible war that simmers beneath the surface. It's a battle that is often unspoken but deeply felt.

I’m in my twenties, and apparently, this is the time of my life when I’m supposed to be out there, getting into messy flings, making “mistakes,” and swiping through faces like they’re menu options. But here’s my truth, I’m looking for something different. Something deeper. Something almost impossible to explain.

Ok ladies, strap in! Dating in your 20s can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. One minute you’re texting someone new and feeling that excited spark, the next you’re wondering if they’re ghosting you or just not that into it. As someone who’s been there, I’ve learned a lot about how to navigate the ups and downs, and I’m here to share what I’ve picked up along the way. From boundaries, to red flags to tips for healthy relationships, here’s what I’ve learned about dating as a woman in my 20s.